Monthly Archives: February 2016

Flowers for the living

We’re getting very close to Valentine’s Day. A Day that is set aside to show love and affection to that special someone in your life. Many people will call up a florist and have flowers sent to that special girl to brighten her day. Chocolate will be sold by the truckload and Hallmark will make a fortune. There’s another day that is going to be reserved in your Life where people will bring you flowers and share stories of your life and just how you touch them. Yes, you guessed it; your funeral. 

All too often we wait for special days to be set aside to celebrate our love and affection. But the saddest one of all, is the one where almost all of your friends and relatives gather, the most beautiful flowers are given, and stories of how your life affected others will be shared. All of this happens at a time where you’re not present to enjoy those kind words and acts of love. If you ever wondered what it would be like to attend your own funeral? Who will be there? What will they say about you? Will the preacher be able to say kind words about you and offer comfort? All of these are things that we don’t like to think about but eventually are going to happen. 

How about your friends and family? Are you waiting for that funeral day to show them love and respect? Does it have to be a holiday or a funeral that pulls everyone together? We certainly understand that a little token of kindness goes a long way, but rarely take the time apart from special days to show that love and concern. A man just told me today, “I’d rather have the flowers and the kind words before I die so I can have the opportunity to return the favor.” What kind of world with this be if we lived that way? What if we loved so unconditionally that we didn’t wait for special days to show that love? Are you getting flowers for no reason? 

Holding the doors open of the restaurant while patiently letting an elderly person in ahead of you is a beautiful flower. Not arguing and attempting to dominate the conversation for self gain with an attitude of superiority, but rather listening to the opinions and the voice of someone else while seeking to truly understand even if you don’t agree carries a flower fragrance that builds a trust mutual respect. Taking a loved one out to eat or cooking them their favorite meal just to show them how much you care is far more precious than a bouquet of roses. 

Give me flowers while I’m still alive that I am able to smell and share the fragrance with all who are around me. When I am dead, I will not be able to show my friends your token of gratitude and speak kindly of you for all you have done. If you give me your flowers of kindness while I am alive to return the favor you will reap the benefits of a friendship and mutual love that endures forever. If you cannot give me flowers while I’m alive you can keep them. For when I am gone, they are only to appease your own grief and shame. Flowers only given after death cannot bring the peace and satisfaction that come with the flowers of a loving heart and the fragrance of a giving lifestyle. Give, and it shall be given unto you pressed down and running over. 

Dear Lord Jesus may I always offer the flowers of kindness to friends, family, and the stranger on the street. 

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February 4, 2016 · 4:15 PM

“Rethinking my life plan today.” 

“Rethinking my life plan today.” 

Oftentimes we have long-term goals in mind but we don’t really realize how our lives will turn out. So many things play a factor that we don’t even think about when we’re younger. 

In just a few months I will say goodbye to my 30s and I will be 40 years old. 10 years ago my life never appeared to look like this. I thought I knew exactly where I would be, but when I got to that fork in the road I took a right instead of left. Looking back to when I was 29 I feel that I was so young and foolish. I realized I didn’t have much of a life plan at all. 

Today at 39 years old I’m creating a new life plan, one that is much more realistic and focus not only on myself but on God. I never knew God would take me down the road of hospice. At 29 years old I was asked the question where do I see myself in 10 years, I thought I would be a children’s minister forever. So my response was, doing what I’m doing now only bigger and better. Boy was I off!!!

I guess I never thought that Anna would grow up. (Denial is sometimes a great place to be.) I certainly never thought I would have toddler at 40! I didn’t think about my body wearing out, or the end of my life. We all know we’re going to die someday, but that day seemed so far away that it didn’t really matter. It’s a thought most people try to push out of their heads. 
Life is short, and the things that you think are important right now, really aren’t that big of a deal. Things that we like to gripe and fuss about, in the grand scheme of things really are nothing. 

So today at 39 pushing 40 I’m asking myself, “when I’m 49 pushing 50 is what I am doing getting me toward my goals, and are the goals I have the ones I will still have what I am 50?” 

These are not questions you can answer in an hour. These take time, prayer, and consideration. I write this today not because I want to share personal information, but because I have a lot of young friends who are naïve just like I was. 
I wish I could do it all over now! 

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February 1, 2016 · 2:46 PM